This early winter, I found myself wanting a new purity ring. Over Thanksgiving, I went looking for a ring, but I never found one. Instead, at the end of Thanksgiving break, I ended up buying 5 costume rings that looked pretty, but weren’t real.
One of the reasons why I wanted a ring, was because it seemed like lately, guys were starting to take interest in me, and someone was even trying to set me up. I wanted something on my hand that would tell them that I’m taken. The current purity ring I had, had a heart that fell out. This time around, I wanted something that would look like a wedding ring of sorts, something serious that would send a message to the guys that I’m not interested in dating anyone.
I know it seems crazy that I believe I will marry, and yet I want to send off a signal that I’m not available to date…
But, that’s just it. I’m not interested in dating. I have known since I was 16 that if I marry, I will marry a man God brings into my life, a husband of His promise. Our meeting, engagement, and marriage will all be divinely orchestrated by the Holy Spirit. Unless the Lord builds my house, I have no reason to do so because it would be in vain. So, either God Himself will bring His promise, purpose and will in my life with HIS choice of a husband, or I will remain single for the rest of my life. Both options comfort me because my heart wants God’s will and His Presence always above all, and my heart is already taken by Jesus first.
So, tonight, when I opened up my present from my brother’s family, I was blown away…speechless. My brother’s words after I unwrapped the ring was, “This will keep the guys away until it’s time.” My sister-in-law hugged me and told me that God had put on her heart to get me a ring. I could only cry, while trying to say thanks, still in shock.
Later, when I was trying to think of what to name my special ring – was it a purity ring? Promise ring? Family ring? My brother called it my “Spoken For” ring. Yes. It is fitting. First and foremost, I am spoken for by my Lord Jesus Christ, and He is the whole reason why I wanted a new ring anyway. I love my relationship with Christ. It’s real, lifechanging, adventurous, and full of life, love, and peace. What I have with Him is covenant. Knowing that, I know I’m entirely spoken for, as He has my heart forever.
I’m also convinced that if God ever wants me to marry, there will be an amazing man of God He will bring my way who will understand covenant in Him, as he will have his own personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Yes, I believe that if I’m to marry, God has already decided at the foundation of the world whom He will allow to be my husband. Therefore, “spoken for” fits, because the man I marry will be God’s choice.
Yes, in Christ, I’m already taken, I’m already spoken for. ♡
Look in the scroll of the LORD and read: None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate. For it is his mouth that has given the order, and his Spirit will gather them together.